If you know me I am a pretty upbeat guy. But I find it harder and harder to not see my boy everyday! I find myself grabbing on to his youth and hoping he can bring me back there. But I have to learn that he needs me to be support and his DAD. Not his friend or buddy(even though that is much funner). I noticed also he understands that Daddy is a push over and he knows how to work me. It is hard to discipline him since I love him so much, but I come to learn that he needs to be disciplined or he will take over. So I struggle with what I should do and what might be too much? Any of you single Dads or Moms got some comments or answers for me?
Wednesday is a tough day for me since it is the first day I haven't had my son for 4 days. I have come to find out that my life really does revolve around him and I need to get a life. I think sometimes I put to much pressure on being a great dad and over look on being a great Guy. So this year I am going to try and be more about me. Giving Ryder his time but yet also taking my time to improve my life, happiness and find someone to love!
I hope you all have great plans for the New Year and lets start 1-1-11 off with a great Celebration.
Average Single Dad
averagesingeldad@gmail.com
"The day my son was born, I simultaneously died and was reborn. Every day before that day, my life had been about me and what I wanted the world to give me. Every day since, my life necessarily has been about what I can give to someone else. And that, I think, is why the world needs more children - and more parents." ~~ Kevin, Attorney from Richmond VA
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Monday, December 27, 2010
Fun First Day of Riding!
For Christmas Ryder got the new Tony Hawk 14"Bike and he is in love!! Think I might be in trouble! So we sis all the safety checks and fixed everything so he would be safe and understand what a bike is for. He was so excited to see that the bike has brakes, even more excited that it has three brakes!! Front hand brakes, back hand breaks and the pedal breaks, now he can stop before going down the hill!
We take off for his first ride and away he goes. I had to jog to keep up, but lucky i was there because he started to go down the hill and totally forgot about all the brakes and started to put his feet down. I reached over and helped him before he started to fall. I laughed and asked him why he didn't use the breaks? He looked at me and said under his breath that he forgot and got scared! The poor little man. Daddy reassured him that he would be there to help until he wants to be by himself. Little did I know that would be in a minute! Ryder took off faster than I could keep up and he never looked back. Now he rides it like he was born on it. Ahh the days of no worries and falling down is OK.
Now after a nap we are off to Harry Potter. We will talk more about this tomorrow.
Average Single Dad
averagesingledad@gmail.com
Now after a nap we are off to Harry Potter. We will talk more about this tomorrow.
Average Single Dad
averagesingledad@gmail.com
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Ahhh the unforgettable Christmas Hangover!!!!
Christmas brings so much love and giving, but still we wake up the day after Christmas with the kids playing with all there new toys but are already bored and wanting more presents. You can't really use the Naughty and Nice list as motivation for your kids anymore.
Today is our day of spending with our Family. We have one more Christmas to go through. So for Ryder he has had 3, going to have one today and still needs to have one with his other extended family!! WOW that is 5 in 3 days, no wonder kids love Christmas!
The hard part of this I feel is showing Ryder how life is built on faith and knowledge. Teaching him faith is proven to be hard, he still doesn't like to jump into my arms at the pool. Even though he knows I am going to catch him he still has little faith in me. I come to learn he has faith in family and his loved ones. This morning I was wrapping up the cousin's gifts and Ryder came over and wanted to help. He actually wrapped Weston's present and helped me with the girls!
Ryder told me Christmas Eve that he thinks Santa wasn't going to give him a bike. I asked him why was he on the Naughty list? He told me it would be OK because Santa should give it to a kid that doesn't have as much as he does. That broke my heart and I realized how blessed I was to have him as my son. Not only are we teaching our Kids knowledge and faith, but they are teaching us!! That is where sometimes we go wrong, maybe we just need to show our kids knowledge and faith and let them decide to follow in our footsteps or build there own path. Hope everyone's Christmas was as good as mine!
Have a great week and lets get ready to bring in 2011!
See you tomorrow,
Average Single Dad
averagesingledad@gmail.com
Today is our day of spending with our Family. We have one more Christmas to go through. So for Ryder he has had 3, going to have one today and still needs to have one with his other extended family!! WOW that is 5 in 3 days, no wonder kids love Christmas!
The hard part of this I feel is showing Ryder how life is built on faith and knowledge. Teaching him faith is proven to be hard, he still doesn't like to jump into my arms at the pool. Even though he knows I am going to catch him he still has little faith in me. I come to learn he has faith in family and his loved ones. This morning I was wrapping up the cousin's gifts and Ryder came over and wanted to help. He actually wrapped Weston's present and helped me with the girls!
Ryder told me Christmas Eve that he thinks Santa wasn't going to give him a bike. I asked him why was he on the Naughty list? He told me it would be OK because Santa should give it to a kid that doesn't have as much as he does. That broke my heart and I realized how blessed I was to have him as my son. Not only are we teaching our Kids knowledge and faith, but they are teaching us!! That is where sometimes we go wrong, maybe we just need to show our kids knowledge and faith and let them decide to follow in our footsteps or build there own path. Hope everyone's Christmas was as good as mine!
Have a great week and lets get ready to bring in 2011!
See you tomorrow,
Average Single Dad
averagesingledad@gmail.com
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff!!
Well today I woke up with no kid in the house and sick as a dog! But I am happy my son is playing with his new toys with his mom and is spending time with her today. I hope I can get over this crap since we have family Christmas at Grandma's tomorrow. It was fun to put together my Son's first Bike last night. Even tho I had to goto Toy R Us at 7 pm to have them fix a piece that was broken. But Life is full of obstacles.
Lesson today, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff! Ryder doesn't really understand the Christmas Holiday and what it represents yet He still is excited just to get a sock full of chocolate, new toys and play. Sometime I think as adults we need to step back and learn from our youth and "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff!" So everything didn't go as planned, the important thing is Ryder is having fun and enjoying his time with family(even if it isn't with me)! I am now going to take care of myself so I can be the fun Dad tomorrow and enjoy time with my family and my son.
Hope all you Dreams and Wishes come true. But if they don't step back take a deep breath and "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff!"
Hope all you Dreams and Wishes come true. But if they don't step back take a deep breath and "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff!"
MERRY CHRISTMAS
Average Single Dad
Averagesingledad@gmail.com
Friday, December 24, 2010
Merry Christmas Eve!!!!
So today I am tired and excited. Ryder is 3 1/2 and he is so excited about Christmas he was up until past midnight! Now he still sleeps while the present wait patiently under the tree! Since he will not be at Daddy's Christmas morning we are having our Christmas celebration today. He gets a small stocking and a couple presents from me. Then when he gets home on Christmas afternoon, Santa will have been here with his new Bike and some more smaller gifts.
This is the year where Ryder actually understands some about Christmas and I struggle with making it a gift infused Holiday. But I love to give and love seeing how excited Ryder is for Santa to come. But last night we did go to the Christmas ship and had a great time. Ryder gave all his Candy Canes away and wished many people a Merry Christmas. It was so magical it made my heart melt. Plus he only wanted to give candy canes to cute girls, A man after my own heart!!
For all you single parents out there remember this is a time of sharing and giving. Teach your kids that giving is more important than receiving. This will make life easier and more enjoyable for all!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!
Average Single Dad
This is the year where Ryder actually understands some about Christmas and I struggle with making it a gift infused Holiday. But I love to give and love seeing how excited Ryder is for Santa to come. But last night we did go to the Christmas ship and had a great time. Ryder gave all his Candy Canes away and wished many people a Merry Christmas. It was so magical it made my heart melt. Plus he only wanted to give candy canes to cute girls, A man after my own heart!!
For all you single parents out there remember this is a time of sharing and giving. Teach your kids that giving is more important than receiving. This will make life easier and more enjoyable for all!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!
Average Single Dad
averagesingledad@gmail.com
Thursday, December 23, 2010
December 23, 2010
Well December is always a time of rejoicing and looking back on your life. I would like to thank everyone that is a part of mine and keeps me on my path. You know who you are Mom.
I have had a rough time with my son this month. Teaching him about Santa and the Naughty and Nice list. I have to admit I have used the Naughty list as a threat to my son. I don't know if this is right but man does he snap to attention. Ryder and myself have had a lot of talks about sharing and that doing good rewards you. But this holiday makes it so hard to learn about sharing. All he wants is TOYS and doesn't care about really anything else. I got a text from his mom this morning that said "he thought Santa came last night when he saw presents wrapped under the tree this morning! Now begging to open one..." HAHAHA lesson learned no presents out until Christmas morning! Thanks Reanna.
So tonight Ryder, Grandma and myself are going to watch the Christmas ship at Gasworks and I want Ryder to give every kid a Candy Cane. I hope this will help teach him that giving is fun and nice to do. Plus he will get to see the smiles and laugh's of all the other kids. Who knows maybe this will be a fluke, but I do believe he will remember this and learn from this experience!
Have a Safe and Merry Christmas!!
Average Single Dad
I have had a rough time with my son this month. Teaching him about Santa and the Naughty and Nice list. I have to admit I have used the Naughty list as a threat to my son. I don't know if this is right but man does he snap to attention. Ryder and myself have had a lot of talks about sharing and that doing good rewards you. But this holiday makes it so hard to learn about sharing. All he wants is TOYS and doesn't care about really anything else. I got a text from his mom this morning that said "he thought Santa came last night when he saw presents wrapped under the tree this morning! Now begging to open one..." HAHAHA lesson learned no presents out until Christmas morning! Thanks Reanna.
So tonight Ryder, Grandma and myself are going to watch the Christmas ship at Gasworks and I want Ryder to give every kid a Candy Cane. I hope this will help teach him that giving is fun and nice to do. Plus he will get to see the smiles and laugh's of all the other kids. Who knows maybe this will be a fluke, but I do believe he will remember this and learn from this experience!
Have a Safe and Merry Christmas!!
Average Single Dad
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Day one December 22, 2010
Ok Day one and now one is following me yet! But hey I am just doing this because I want to share my thoughts, dreams and ideas with my fellow Single dads and friends!
Yesterday I spent the day taking care of my 3 1/2 year old son Ryder. He had a little accident on Saturday and I had to make my first trip to the ER. It wasn't bad but Ryder was scared and when he cries it makes me want to just reach out and hold him. But knowing that he will be in the ER more than once(I have been told I have been there a couple times) I took the time to sit and talk with him on my lap. We talked about what we where there for, what they where gonna do and finally what to expect. He stopped crying but had a major concerned look on his face, so I took the doctors rubber gloves and made him two balloons out of them. This put a smile on his face until they came in with a little Orange flavored Motrin and Ryder wanted nothing to do with medicine!!! But we talked it over and that he had to take it to himself and guess what he did!!! He took it all and showed the doctors how proud he was to have taken all his meds!
Now Ryder knows how to manipulate me! I am a sucker for a child. We went to the Orthopedic and they said it is just a pulled tendon and that we should just keep it in the cast for a couple days! But Ryder is happy to be sitting in bed watching TV. SO I think it will be hard to let it go since he is carried and babied all over again! But I love having my little man need his daddy again. I know you have all heard it over and over but time flies and I can't believe my son is 3 1/2 going on 10!!
Thanks for reading my rants and raves. Tomorrow will be about the Christmas season and how to teach our kids about giving and sharing. Till Then Have a fabulous day!
The Average Single Dad!
Yesterday I spent the day taking care of my 3 1/2 year old son Ryder. He had a little accident on Saturday and I had to make my first trip to the ER. It wasn't bad but Ryder was scared and when he cries it makes me want to just reach out and hold him. But knowing that he will be in the ER more than once(I have been told I have been there a couple times) I took the time to sit and talk with him on my lap. We talked about what we where there for, what they where gonna do and finally what to expect. He stopped crying but had a major concerned look on his face, so I took the doctors rubber gloves and made him two balloons out of them. This put a smile on his face until they came in with a little Orange flavored Motrin and Ryder wanted nothing to do with medicine!!! But we talked it over and that he had to take it to himself and guess what he did!!! He took it all and showed the doctors how proud he was to have taken all his meds!
Now Ryder knows how to manipulate me! I am a sucker for a child. We went to the Orthopedic and they said it is just a pulled tendon and that we should just keep it in the cast for a couple days! But Ryder is happy to be sitting in bed watching TV. SO I think it will be hard to let it go since he is carried and babied all over again! But I love having my little man need his daddy again. I know you have all heard it over and over but time flies and I can't believe my son is 3 1/2 going on 10!!
Thanks for reading my rants and raves. Tomorrow will be about the Christmas season and how to teach our kids about giving and sharing. Till Then Have a fabulous day!
The Average Single Dad!
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